If your partner feels confident about her appearance, there is a likelihood that she will enjoy a passionate session in bed with you. Purchasing kinky lingerie can be a joint effort that you and your partner participate in together. First, mention the possibility of investing in lingerie. Afterwards, browse items together and stop by a specialty shop to pick out items that are of interest.

Broach the Topic

When you and your partner are watching a steamy movie or talking candidly about some spicy topics, bring up your interest in kinky lingerie. Ask your partner if she would consider wearing something suggestive. If your love interest is receptive to the idea, suggest that you both review some lingerie items online.

Browse specialty shop websites that feature a wide range of lingerie. Show your partner what types of garments appeal to you and request that your better half does the same. Listen to one another and take note of any lingerie features or styles that your significant other truly likes or dislikes.

Go Shopping

A lingerie specialty shop may feature everything from fantasy garments to modest negligees. You can visit this type of shop during normal business hours or can request an after-hours appointment. Not all shop owners will grant an after-hours appointment, but there may be some shops within the area that do offer this type of service. During a shopping trip, you and your significant other should both pick out some garments. Afterwards, time should be taken to try each ensemble on.

While your partner is trying on each lingerie item, sit outside of the dressing rooms. If your partner is satisfied with how she looks in the dressing room mirror, she may be willing to model a specific lingerie item for you. Respect your partner's wishes to refrain from modelling some of the items, however. If a garment is flimsy and your partner does not feel comfortable wearing it, she should not be pressured to show you how it looks.

Try to compromise by deciding to purchase items that both of you like. Even if you are not able to get your partner to agree to invest in something that is sheer or skimpy, you may be able to agree on some of the features that a particular item possesses. For instance, instead of buying a completely see-through garment, you may both be able to agree on buying a garment that contains a mix of opaque and sheer panels.